Original Advice
“DO: Ask for clear boundaries and mutual definitions of fidelity.”
Write the Rules of Us
Say it out loud: if it's not defined, it's denied. People hide in gray areas; they call secrecy nuance and betrayal a misunderstanding. Your pride keeps bleeding while you pretend it's theater lighting. Stop giving loopholes your crown. Name what counts: DMs at midnight, lunch with exes, "just friends" with history, passwords, porn, fantasies. Loyalty without language is smoke. Write the terms or watch them disappear.
You love center stage, but trust is backstage crew. If they're improvising while you're performing, the show collapses. Boundaries are not suspicion; they're choreography. Define contact rules, disclosure timelines, consequences. Decide what recovery looks like if a line gets crossed. Put it in notes, not vibes. Read it together sober. Revisit monthly. Clarity isn't unromantic. It's how the fire keeps oxygen.
Cosmic Context
You're Sun-ruled, fixed fire; you set the temperature. The Sun doesn't negotiate with shadows; it exposes them.
Action
──────Schedule a 20-minute meeting; co-write and sign five fidelity rules.
✨ You are allowed to demand clarity and walk away from fog. ✨